By Venessa Williams
There are many things that people go through when they have had a relationship break up for whatever reasons. Some people like to be left alone for sometime to reflect on the loss, but some other people go in the opposite direction. They are the ones that seek comfort in someone else as soon as they can. That is their way of healing, and it does not mean that they did not care about or are not morning the loss of the last relationship. When you are dating someone after a breakup, either yours or theirs, you want to know if you are in a rebound relationship or not.
You may think of a rebound relationship as one that starts after a long term one fails. That is true, but not all of them are going to end badly. However, most of them do. What happens is that someone goes for the opposite of the person they were just with in the hopes that this will help them forget and heal faster. It never works, but that is usually what they are attempting to do. If they are not the ones that wanted to end the relationship, they may go into a rebound relationship with someone who remind them of the person they just lost.
Because of this, rebound relationships are often based on things that do not make for a long term relationship. If you jump into the arms of another to feel safe and loved, even though you have not mourned the one you just ended, you are not seeing that person for who they really are. Large problems and other issues can occur in such a rebound relationship. One of the biggest is that they end up talking endlessly about the relationship that just ended, and the other person is left to feel that they are not over that other person. If this occurs, they are correct and the relationship ends.
If you think that you are in a rebound relationship with someone, ask yourself a few questions. Have you jumped to fast? If you are thinking of getting close to someone really fast, you could be setting yourself up for heart ache. Eventually, they are going to get spooked. If someone is always talking about the ex, you should realize that this could go on for a long time. You have to decide if you can pull back a little and be more of a friend until the other person has healed. If not, youre going to get your feelings hurt and heart busted into pieces. Make your pick accordingly.
Those people who leap from one lover to another, and have found themselves in a rebound relationship have to consider what they are doing. They should make double sure they are being real about getting out of something and not being over it. That can let someone else conclude if they are really up for a relationship that may not end well. There becomes a time when the emotions of others have to be a higher priority then the need to find comfort in someone else you know you are probably going to make suffer. - 31368
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